ORDINARY IS NOT A BAD THING

Sir,
 So what makes you or me an ordinary person? What constitutes an ordinary life? Is ordinary good or bad? Does it make you boring or more acceptable?

These are questions I asked myself today as I am always touched by Mr Alex Nxumalo’s articles. Sometimes we get to a stage where we take a close look at our lives and find ourselves faced with images of an everyday person, making a regular living, married to yet another everyday person and living in an unremarkable house with set routines and daily habits. Over time, it all becomes ordinary and perhaps we wake up one day thinking so is this what life’s all about?

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Am I missing something or is my life just dull and unspectacular? Am I ordinary and unremarkable? I believe that everything becomes routine with time and as far as I am concerned, being ordinary is not a bad thing. For me, it represents normality, comfort, warmth and familiarity. Everyone has their own personal definition of ordinary. Some will go to great lengths to prove that they are indeed far from plain by dressing or behaving outrageously.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for individualism, as long as it’s not a false ploy to attract attention or to appear to be extraordinary.

I think it’s crazy to believe that being ordinary makes you too normal and boring. What is normal anyway? Whose definition do we go by? I believe that being ordinary makes you real. Life is about typical people carving out an ordinary existence in the real world. We were all ordinary and whichever way we look at it, no matter who we are and what we do to our lives often seem ordinary. As I’m just a blooming teenager, I could dream of being married to my soul mate, living in a wonderful home that we have built together, working from the comfort of my home and doing what I love best – writing.

The trick is to hold onto the magic by taking the time to really appreciate it all. There’s nothing wrong with being an everyday person in an ordinary life as long as you regularly make the time to appreciate what you do have instead of taking it for granted or constantly wishing for what you don’t have. Multitudes of people have mild life crises because they suddenly wake up to the realisation that they have become the boring and conventional family they once despised and looked down upon. In their mad and frenzied attempt to prove otherwise, they often ruin their perfectly normal life before realising that it was in fact a happy one that perhaps just needed a little work.

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The wild excitement of an adventurous life soon proves to be short lived and fizzles out as extraordinary all too quickly becomes ordinary for such a life. In a nutshell, don’t measure your life on whether it’s predictable and uninteresting. Measure your life on what you have your loved ones, your health, your accomplishment and most importantly your happiness.
At the end of the day, the real question is ‘Are you happy? Last but not least, Royalty may seem to have incredible lives to us, but even to them, their lives become tedious. Money may seem to buy an exciting life but eventually it becomes boring as well, habitual and even unfulfilling. Happy weekend maSwati!

Skirsh Dlamini

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