YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL NO MATTER WHAT THEY SAY

We have seen so many body positivity movements lately and I have been wondering about their necessity. Not in a ‘ugh not another one’ kind of way but in a ‘why create situation or standards of beauty, which are primarily exclusionary?’

There are movements for dark skinned people, plus sized people and so on, if you get on to YouTube now there would be countless videos speaking to how to better love yourself. It really makes me wonder if big corporations create this disconnect in how we view ourselves healthily just so they could make money off of our insecurities, insecurities they create.

As a result, I have been wondering a lot about self love and how it relates to us and how we attach it to beauty.
So many of us, myself included, grew up believing ourselves not to be beautiful and having a keen understanding of how this world is unkind to people who aren’t beautiful. So we spend the rest of our days trying to create optical illusions that position us as beautiful. We spend time trying to find validation in romantic relationships and by so doing, we misuse their very function.  I was also told all the time that I was skinny.

All the time, everywhere and I did not know how to process it in a way that did not make me wary of my body. As those comments were being tossed at me, there was also mainstream media reiterating that skinny bodies are beautiful bodies.  The whole thing required a confidence I did not possess back then.

I hate these rules because they pit us against each other because there someone always benefits whenever any sort of conflict arises. I took to my Facebook and asked what some of the things people grew up being insecure about, and it proved to me there is no standard of beauty – at least not one that is fashioned against an existing person. So why can’t we just celebrate being beautiful in every form? I do.
User 1: I used to love my legs, even when high school bullies sang songs teasing them. I love my ‘umlomo wefish’ but it is a struggle. Buying lipstick is a pain because I must not make it pop too much.

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