Bishop Mpendulo a romantic man

being asked or forced to, he massages his wife, Zanele Mbokazi’s feet from time to time.

This is revealed in a sensational book written by Mbokazi and featuring the Swazi bishop.

In it, they talk about love, sex and friendship.

In the book titled "Before the Vows,’ Nkambule who is the founder of the Word of Hope Ministries, a church situated at Sidvwashini in Mbabane, and his wife who happens to be a prominent businesswoman in South Africa, also talk about their happiness and emotional support in their marriage.

They also talk about how they are both transparent to each other and provide each other emotional support.

"Happiness cannot be compromised," he says.

"We must be honest with our feelings. I know what drives her and I ensure that she has my blessings all the time."

Among other things that make Mbokazi is when the bishop massages her on her feet or opens the door for her.

In one of the chapters where Zanele talks about love and sex, she says she does not doubt that she truly and wholeheartedly loves the bishop.

"But more than that, he has shown me that true love still exists," she says.

"In the little deeds, like opening the door, massaging my feet when I am tired without me asking or me rubbing it in about the hard day I had. Going through this manual before marriage was pretty challenging. But one good thing came out of that process is that we were forced to talk about every subject in detail, including love and sex. This cleared the ground for healthy, lovable and fruitful marriage. They talk about their past relationships and about what they experienced when they were undergoing their respective divorces. This was before they met.

They also give advice to couples on how to maintain marriages and avoid divorce.

The couple will soon be celebrating their first anniversary as they got married in August last year.

In the book, they describe the pain of going through a divorce process and believe the book would help in healing others who have experienced a similar fate.

They also talk about sex, which is described as the pillar of most relationships, including theirs.

While this is the first book to be written by the bishop and made public, Zanele is not new to the writing field as there are other books she has published.

These are two inspirational books titled ‘This Battle is Not Yours’ and `Push.’

Talking about the new book, Zanele said it was specifically meant to focus on the core of marriages and all dynamics around this phenomenon.

"It answers the questions boggling those with prospects of getting married," she said.

"It also asks the relevant questions that most people are skeptical to ask. The book comes handy to those already in the institution of marriage, to assist them in assessing their current states and improving on their marriages."

Mbokazi said they felt it was proper that they address the issue of divorce because this was one of the most painful things in life.

Meanwhile, the bishop believes that by sharing their experience in their past and present marriages, a number of relationships will be restored while those who were thinking of divorce or have already divorced, would work to have their marriages restored.

"God used our mountains (divorces) to heal others," he said.

"As ministers of the word, we also have to see to it that those who are yet to get married get the proper help and are nurtured as they prepare for their marriage."

The bishop said the book would also be sold locally as there are many people who seem interested in it.

The pain of going through divorce

The couple says many Christians do not talk about their divorce but instead they hide it and try to make sure that nobody finds out.

"We learnt that divorce can be a time of doubt and self-blame," they say.

"It is a period when the devil rejoices and believes you are finished and that God will never forgive you nor accept you as his child. Divorce is indeed a part of our lives that we are both not proud of. However, we are thankful that the Lord saw us through in spite of all the trials and setbacks that we encountered."

The couple explains that it was an extremely painful period and painstaking process that they do not wish on any other person.

"It was a time of our lives that nearly destroyed us and even those around us," they say. "It was a dark period when friends were few and some of our fellow Christians were not sure of how to treat us or even relate to us."

They are currently working on another book on divorce and hope their experience and the grace of God that lifted them up would help in the healing of other people.

"God used our mountains (divorce) to change us," says the couple.

"We prayed for God to remove or change our moun-tains but God did not. He instead, made us go through the valley.

We walked arou-nd the mountains and on occasions, we felt like it was too much and we could not take another step.

However, God had a different view.

He kept on saying "Yes you can go on, take another lap, just one more time, for I am with you."

They say they thought it was unfair and too hard to bear but today when they look back, they understand that God wanted to not to change the mountain but he allowed the mountain to help change and shape them.

"God was purifying us, making us stronger, making us humble and making us finer, just like refined pure gold."

Comments

Thank you guys we really need such material. Life is not easy and people dont talk about their dirvoce. We really appreciate you for coming open with this sensitive issue.
Jun 24, 2012, 6:49 AM, A.M.zZubuko (buko@ymail)

Please give us some news not these personal stories or they paid you to run such a story. Get a life guys, you can do better than that.
Jun 24, 2012, 6:49 AM, Sushi (sushi@live.com)

The two lovebirds talk of divorce as if it was a blessing, maybe yes for them because they found each other; refined as gold as they say but not to the kids and relatives. I think the only time it becomes 'plain sailing' is when it is initiated by the party that has found love elsewhere and is in a hurry to get out of it for selfish reasons. God says he hates divorce, and the pastors know that; and as such, I cannot even begin to understand why they say God said they should get on with it. I promise you, God never said that, the devil may be; because the bible says all bad deeds come from the devil and not God. These are some of the 'holy lies' christians tell, God cannot contradict himself, he wants marriages to stand no matter what. These two should just admit they were defeated by the devil, period. Lies, lies everywhere what are we going to do here.
Jun 24, 2012, 6:49 AM, Burns Dlamini (Lobhoncela) (Burnspolitics@gmail.com)

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