THE DARK SIDE OF THE DATING GAME

AFTER a conversation with a friend of mine last week, we concluded that the Blesser-Blessee phenomenon exists because women are using their vulnerability to their own advantage, among many reasons, of cause.

The truth is some men will go out of their way to date a woman they consider ‘weak’. This woman could have low self-esteem, no car, no money, or maybe going through a break up/time of need. Men will target these women and attract them by being the ‘good guy’, they shower her with money and gifts so that this woman becomes dependent on them.

At times these men will build a woman’s confidence just enough to make her feel good enough for him and only him. Men get this sense of security that the girl won’t leave them because he came along and ‘saved them’. They feel like they’re in control of the relationship (which they usually are until she wakes up and realises his SOP then leaves him) and men love having power. He will use this woman maybe for sex or attention from his friends. In reality, these men are so much more weak, insecure, pathetic and very unappreciative than the woman.

They will find a way to keep her as close to them as possible and make sure she is too weak and dependent on them to leave. These men will make sure they always have something to keep the girl around and blessers use money, and there is ALWAYS an ultimatum…but not from the man. And here’s why;

I have made an observation that neediness isn’t determined by what a person actually does or say, but the intention behind what they say. What we’ll find is that there seems to be a very fundamental component of human relationships and that is this: you only deal with as much manipulation as you’re willing to deal with, and after you get what you want, there really is no more reason to stay.
 
 

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