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The evil genius of patriarchy is breathtaking. It has lulled women into a false sense of security, comfortable with her knowledge that her moral obligation to honor her sacred vows could at any time be instantly dissolved if she utters the three magic words, I am unhappy.

A lasting marriage does not always signal a happy marriage. Plenty of miserable married women are still with their abusive husbands for children, religion and other reasons. A sustainable marriage is not just about staying together but it should also be meaningful and satisfying.

The traditional idea of a marriage seems to treat women as tools for their husbands’ self-expression and personal growth and if they are no longer a means to that end they should be divorced or worse abandoned.


It just seems keeping the wife is only good until she has career problems or mental health issues or falls ill at which point she will be abandoned.
It is still hard for couples to come to an agreement with the fact that a relationship, where the partners act like equals and negotiate who plays what role in the relationship, is a fertile ground for breeding happiness for the whole family.


My stay at-home parent status does not give my husband a licence to sit on the couch and get a daily dose of the news while I scrub myself silly!
The household grunt work is still everyone’s responsibility just as it would be if the women worked outside the home.

Women who are treated as work-horses, punching bags and semi-happy wives will at often times be heard saying they are holding on for the sake of their children who will be traumatised and feel abandoned if their parents go separate ways. Those mothers are doing their daughters no favour by teaching them tolerance; that a married woman should accept such treatment.


All women have the right to their choice of birth control, when to have sex and what to wear.
Women should demand their reproductive rights because every time we go down the route of sexual freedom it becomes an edgy version of what men find sexy.

Nosipho  Matsenjwa

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