EXPOSE MISSING FATHERS

Sir,

Last year, just before Father’s Day, social media was abuzz with happy Father’s Day messages to single mothers who are apparently a mother and a father to their children.

Being raised by a single mother myself, I can certainly attest to the fact that single mothers have the hardest job on earth. With limited resources and help, they are charged with the enormous task of ensuring the healthy mental, emotional, spiritual and social development of their children.

They need to keep food on the table, a roof over everybody’s head and keep their children away from negativity as best as they can. And it’s often a thankless job.

Argue

No one can argue that as a single mother you are doing a great job holding it down well or that you are strong and resilient and that you are doing all that you can to provide a good life for your children. I know that there are many lonely nights and days where you don’t know how you are going to make it or take it.
 I know that it is hard, whether you choose to admit this publicly or not. I know that you are sacrificing a lot to make sure that your children don’t have to. I know that if your child’s father is not doing right by the children while you struggle to give them what they need, that sometimes you become a little resentful, even when you say that you’re bigger than that.

Love

I know that every once in a while as much as you love your children you miss the days when life was carefree. But I also know that you know that no matter how much you are holding it down, you are not the father!

The father’s role in the natural flow of life is so critical that when he is discounted or missing in action, you are left with broken homes, dysfunctional communities and an unhealthy model for fatherhood and manhood.

That, to me is what should be exposed and corrected on days like Father’s Day. The ‘good fathers’ shouldn’t be content with receiving gifts and hugs from their children while turning a blind eye on the men who don’t even know how many children they have. Real evil is when the good people do absolutely nothing!

Nomsa

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