TRUST A PRECIOUS VIRTUE

 
Sir,

The moment your eyes read the word ‘trust’ your brain gets spooled with a lot of information, past and present. And one fascinating thing your brain brings up is the word ‘relationships’.

When that happens, I am sure a slide show of all your relationship experiences starts playing. Beautiful and sad memories get evoked. These have been a consequence of the things you have done and all the people you have crossed paths with; some of whom you wish their collective remembrance would be expunged and others that you will apprize forever.

In a world where no one is saying anything new, it is safe to say that which we project through words is what is affecting our modern day lives. Intrinsic to what affects and glues our interpersonal relationships is the most important principle of trust. The corporate world, families and love relations all emphasize the value of integrity.

At work, our employers trust us with the responsibilities they gave us and continue to give. Passing the interview, which is a determinant of the qualities the abeyant employers are looking for, is just setting the stage for the bigger responsibilities; performance and competence.

Growing up in our respective families, we reach the stage where we are able to individuate between good and bad, and that is the juncture when our elders start to have faith in us that we will make the proper decisions in life.

Content

They are content that they have done their part of parenthood by instilling the belief that this world is generally a good place. However, let me be quick to mention that it is not a perfect place, lest you tend to believe so. Nonetheless, if you want to function effectively as a person you need to know that trust in the world is inseparable from trust in people. Consider yourself blessed if your parents told you that no matter how flawed the human race is, we are fundamentally well-intentioned. Trust is that unique and special additive which cements our love for our families.

With regard to intimate relationships, ask anyone and they will tell you that the lack of trust is the cause of most if not all the problems that eventually lead to break-ups.  Lack of trust in relationships is a concept that has been discussed repetitively because in borders on the issue of love that continues to mystify us. Speaking of unfaithfulness in relationships, one friend of mine once asked me this question, “Are we born promiscuous?”

I didn’t have an immediate answer but as I pondered on this question, I figured out that promiscuity is a combination of many factors. Historically, it is linked with men but due to sexual revolution, women are catching up. Or have they caught up already?

We are, therefore, living in times where relationships are no longer defined because we no longer trust each other. Those hurtful past experiences have made people put walls around their hearts. Words continue to fail us no matter how much we say ‘trust me, I won’t break your heart’ to those we love.

These days, people are reluctant to believe what you say until your actions justify your words. All this is happening because we continue to fail to uphold the fragile yet precious virtue called trust.

Nhlangano

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