FIND BEAUTY IN WORLD OF TEARS

Sir,

“Life is beautiful, I have it all. But even in the sunshine one has to cry sometimes,” said Susan Jeffers. There’s a place that exists within us all, and in order to heal the hurts that lie deep within us we need to enter it fully. And that is the world of tears.
Who has not at times felt rejected, unloved, helpless, lonely or not quite good enough?

Who has not cried at the unfairness of so many happenings in their lives? Who has not had to come to terms with the fact that there are times we have to say goodbye to those we love most? Who has not witnessed all the pain, suffering and destruction that exist in this world? Life is about facing all this and many more.

I remember when I was rejected by some of the local schools, because of my age and appearance when I was looking for space to do my Grade V at age 18.
That rejection brought something beautiful and so precious into my life. Hot and bitter tears started rolling down my cheeks, and those tears came from the understanding that no matter how difficult life gets, I can handle anything that comes my way and emerge from it stronger and wiser. I know that it has been instilled to our minds that real men don’t cry, yet the truth is real men do cry, but fake men don’t cry because they are good at pretending.

Pretending

But real men are not actors, pretending to be the strong silent type when deep feelings of pain are yearning to come forward.  We have been taught that crying is a sign of weakness, yet there’s power in crying for both men and women. There’s also peace, flow, energy, compassion and beauty. In early December last year, I received good news that I was going be part of a team that was going to represent the kingdom in some activities outside the country. I was glad and I started telling everyone; family, friends and enemies. I was so happy because to me it was a dream coming true.

Explain

But unfortunately, something terrible happened; I was no longer going, just when there was only two days remaining. It was painful to me and I had to explain to my friends and enemies why I was no longer going.
Instead of trying to be strong, I just cried. I felt lighter, freer and more able to dance with life. What a merciful relief not to have to hold back that ranging river of emotion any longer.

In all letters that I have written, I have been telling readers that when deep sadness comes over, I can let it be there like a warm blanket. I don’t have to push it away. It feels so good to just let the tears flow freely.
When I let the tears wash over me I feel cleansed and healed. And when the river of tears is empty, I am free to enjoy the delights the world has to offer, without a layer of sadness dampening my joy. Like Susan Jeffers, I just end the struggle and dance with life.

Mancoba Dludlu

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