MISERIES MOTHERS ENDURE

 Sir,

I have been all along under the impression that humankind could be changed into upright societal beings. As is a plastic moulded into a plastic basin, I thought people too, could be moulded from unacceptable behaviours into good ones. However, recent incidents of abuse tested my philosophy. Lives of women have been lost as a result of husbands who reportedly assaulted them. This means one thing; the assaults had been going on for ages. Do we have to tolerate abuse to the extent that we get used to it?

These sordidness provide a kaleidoscope of the many miseries our mothers endure from men who abuse them knowing that they can escape their ill-deeds by crawling into the womb of cultural traditions. A man’s role is broad in that it transcends the husbandry one to that of a knight. To, therefore, argue that you paid lobola is absolute piffle. Such misconducts worry me since they continue to provide an obvious happy hunting ground for those who are always pointing men for much of the domestic abuse around. Such men expose themselves as the type that subscribe to the dour doctrine, where they assume the monster-role in the household, so that neither wife nor child befriend them, whereas they ought to be friends to their wives and children.

This amounts to defiance to the writings and awareness rose to fight violence in order to rid our kingdom from patriarchal tendencies that undermines, the rights and dignity of women. As it is, such endeavours are falling in an otherwise infertile soil in the kingdom. Since no branch of knowledge constitutes a cure-all for the ills of humankind, it means we are at crossroads. Many voices have in the past urged women to do away with the ‘sengihlalele bantfwabami’ tag, but the outcomes of such campaigns are bare for all to see.

Honestly, we cannot hold men for much of the abuse. Women are to blame too; why do they continue to stay with monster husbands?
Even present day Christianity cannot pretend to be the whole panacea of our ills, though it comes closer to it than any other discipline. Or, should we turn to anthropology, which provides a scientific basis for dealing with the crucial dilemma of the world today? Things like these hold us back as a nation since we should be devoting ourselves to matters of national development.

S Khanya

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