WHY MEN CHEAT

Cheating, just like telling lies, is a human flaw and will continue to generate arguments and concerns for a variety of reasons. For the every day man and woman, cheating has been around forever.

At some point, both men and women would cheat or would have been victims of cheating. Ironically, despite all the haggling, we are far from discovering why men especially cheat even when they love their women and are happily married.  Every man knows cheating is wrong otherwise he would not hide it. The reasons are myriad and varied, and may even be peculiar to the individual. The assumption that men, no matter the race or colour, are polygamous by nature could be true. Let us examine some of them:
l  A man will cheat if he believes having more than one woman is a status symbol and sign of success. In traditional African settings, the wealth and success of a man is measured by the number of women and children he has. A man with one wife was considered a weakling in society.
 l  If a guy cheats on you the first time and you let him get away with it, chances are that he will do it again knowing there is very little that you will do to him. This same theory often holds true for abuse and domestic violence. The truth is that the typical African man believes from a young age that he is entitled to live a polygamous lifestyle. Women are also raised to accept this though unwillingly. In fact, in the African setting, a woman is encouraged to look the other way if her man is cheating, as long as he is discreet about his affairs.
l A man whose father or uncle cheated  on their wives is most likely to cheat. This is because he is likely to see them as role models. Besides, it is the life he grew up to know. Often times parents of intending couples from monogamous marriages frown at the prospect of their daughters or sons marrying children from polygamous backgrounds because they believe that they did not grow up around good role models.
l  Nothing lifts the old self esteem like discovering that you are a hot cake with other women. It will sure tickle your ego and fantasy to discover that a woman still finds you attractive.
lWhen partners have been together for a while, it is easy for sex to fall into routine perhaps, on a particular day of the week and in a particular manner. Some men find it difficult to cope with the same pattern every time.
lSome men actually thrive on the excitement and fun that a new affair generates. According to research, the kind of excitement one gets in a new relationship is like that of being high on drugs. The excitement for both drug use and new relationships takes place in the same part of the brain. For some men, the ‘high’ or adrenaline rush from courting, romancing or seducing new women may become an addiction. The excitement, stimulation and novelty they get from it make them feel alive.  And since they live for the thrill of the chase, and new conquests as often as possible to feed their ego and sense of worth, these men will cheat over and over again, whether they are caught or not.

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