LOVE YOUR HUSBAND’S CHILDREN

Sir,

It is every woman’s dream to get married to the man of her dreams and have children together and live happily ever after.
 These are usually rare opportunities in our time, as you may find that the man you are dreaming of marrying already has children from a previous relationship.

This now means it is not just a husband you are having but his children as well.
You have become a victim of the new arrangement. Contrary to your expectations they might not like you as they might not be comfortable that their father has another woman in his life. They may feel by liking you they are being disloyal to their biological mother.

You feel rejected and take it personally. It is true you might have expected a happy family but things are not working out the way you thought. It is your responsibility now as a mother to help your man raise these children in a good and positive way, the way you would also love your own children to be raised. Remember you have come to build, you have come to help this man’s load and accepting him with everything that he brought.

We have heard stories of children who were raised by step mothers in harsh conditions. It is true that it is not easy to raise children that are not yours, especially if they don’t want to accept you despite that you are now in their father’s life.
 A lot of children though have grown up with a lot of unhealed wounds from their experiences.

Some are still treated to a lot of harsh and inhuman treatments from their step- mothers. Some of these children have been given bad names by these women in order to spite them.

These children are given tough tasks to do every day without end, insinuating that they are strong, they don’t get tired, they can even walk in heavy rainfall.

These are things we see every day and turn a blind eye. The question is, what if it was your child walking in heavy rainfall and working hard chores without end? Some of these children end up failing to take the heat at home and prefer to live in the streets.
No matter how difficult it is to raise children, we need to do our part to raise these children in a balanced way.

Remember we are creating tomorrow’s society and we don’t want children raised under pain and violence. How can they be productive when they are raised under violent and harsh conditions? Why create a toxic environment for them?

Please love and protect your husband’s children. They cannot be orphans in their father’s house while you and their father are still alive.
 Let us remember that mothers are the hedge that protects the whole homestead, not part of the homestead.
No one is safe when these children are not safe.
Let us challenge any form of violence against children please!

Colleen Matsebula

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