STRIVE TOGETHER TOWARDS PERFECTION

Sir,

A good marriage does not require a perfect man or a perfect woman, if only requires a man and a woman committed to strive together towards perfection.
I have felt impressed to speak about divorce despite that this is a sensitive subject because it evokes such strong emotion from a person it has touched in different ways. Some see themselves as the victims of divorce, others see themselves as its beneficiaries, and some see divorce as evidence of failure.

In one way or the other, divorce touches most families in the church. Whatever your perspective please listen as I speak plainly about the effects of divorce on the eternal family relationships. We seek under the Gospel plan. I speak out of concern but with hope. We live in a world in which the whole concept of marriage is in peril and where divorce is common knowledge. Now I speak to married people, especially to any of those who might be considering divorce. I strongly urge you and those who advise you to face up to the reality that for most marriage problems, the remedy is not divorce but repentance.

Often, the cause is not incompatibility but selfishness. The first step is not separation but reformation. Divorce is not an all purpose solution and it often creates long term heartache.
You have to think first of the children because divorce separates the interests of children from the interests of their parents as children are the first victims.

Of course, there can be times when one spouse falls short and the other is wounded and feels pain. When that happens, the other one who is upset should strike a balance of the current disappointment against the good of the past and the brighter prospects of the future. Don’t treasure up the past wrongs reprocessing them again and again. In a marriage relationship forgiving is divine. Plead for the guidance of the spirit of the Lord to forgive.

Elder Jackal
Sipho Magagula

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