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I DON’T WANT TO BE SORRY

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Open doors might and can be closed. A downhill might and can be subsequent to an uphill. It seems that nature has duality engraved.


A good deed has compliments on the side while a bad one sides with criticism. Now let’s hypothesise. With the supposition that I have committed a bad deed, say I have wronged my girlfriend, or absconded a lecture or came back home late last night after a binge or did all these in one day. What would follow would be a plethora of criticism: an emotional one from my girlfriend, a second hot ‘lecture’ from my lecturer on attending, and a grounding threat from my grandma, ‘ anizwa’! There it goes, a bad deed(s) coupled with criticism. Duality is achieved. Done deal! Why then should I be sorry.


Why should I bend my emotions for something nature has already sufficiently provisioned balance for? It remains folly to me that I should be sorry for the one particular deed I committed my personal self with full will and mindset. If anything, such demeans one’s integrity beyond the extent of the bad deed itself. The words ‘I am sorry’ negate one’s ability to act independently with acknowledgement of consequential responsibility as should be expected by society. Why should I say I am sorry and declare insanity and ultimate incapacity to be a person of my own and responsible in my own right to society, in good standing or not.

If I am in good standing, let society commend me. When wrong, I humbly accept the criticism and duly face the consequences.
The word ‘sorry’ shades away the ability to see the need for one to take responsibility for one’s actions. Sorry is a fake version of responsibility. Sorry is redundant, repetitious and cancerously poisonous to justice in the home, in the community and in the nation. Imagine a court system that demands ‘I am sorry’ from rapists and murderers. See, jail time is a form of responsibility for offenders to society. They should not be sorry for their offences. They should be responsible for their offences, ratherly!


Sorry brings neither warmth to the offender nor satisfaction to the offended. That is how useless sorry is. It generates weaklings in our generation. People who fail to brave up in bold, with internal peace, to do the right thing at the next given chance.


There’s a one word reason why our Africa has become a sorry sight. Colonialists demanded ‘sorry’ from us every minute. We then allowed this to culture itself, leaping it’s vile from generation to the next.
There is a fine line between the next best thing and the best next thing. I prefer the latter. And if that’s wrong, I refuse to be sorry.
Neliso Xolo Dlamini

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