FATHER-IN-LAW IS NO ROLE MODEL

Sir,

Greetings in the name of the Lord. Please help me.
I am a young married woman already dealing with drama of my husband’s infidelity and alcoholism.  My problem now is that we are fixing our marriage and all that but the core factor (my father-in-law) is still there. He is involved in extra-marital affairs like nobody’s business.  My husband sees him with all these women and I am afraid he will also continue doing the same, yet we are fixing our marriage. Now my dilemma is: how do I respect a man like my father-in-law, who does this and how will I know if this will not affect my marriage?
To me, right now, I see a generational curse of infidelity.
How do I submit to my husband who does not want to stop taking alcohol and who does not seem to prove that indeed he is no longer cheating?
I have prayed so hard but am just emotionally and spiritually drained and sengitiva ngikhashane naNkulunkulu (I feel I have moved away from God) facing all these problems.
I am still young and should be enjoying the honeymoon phase since we recently got married but that is not happening.
I do not like how marriage life is distancing me from my God.

Blushing bride

BY EMAIL
Blushing Bride,

The good thing is that you are aware of your problem and are looking for a solution – a positive one for that matter. That is a major step in resolving issues. However, your letter does not make it clear why you also blaming your farther-in-law for your husband’s infidelity. Otherwise, it would have been better to speak to him and your mother-in-law about your concerns. Ask them to speak to your husband and try to help him change his ways. If that fails, seek professional help. There are clinical psychologists who can help you. You can also speak to your pastor if you are a spiritual person. All the best.

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