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How banker stole my wife

31/10/2010 00:00:00 The editor

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Sir,

This adultery thing in Swaziland is totally out of control and what is blatantly clear is that we are in extremely short supply of role models for our children.

I personally have had my marriage wrecked by an investment banker who has a wife and children of his own, but seems to think he can help himself to anyone else’s wife.

I moved my wife out of my home because no man (even him) wants to be married to somebody else’s side item.

The worst thing though is that as much as I like to think I am a god fearing decent human being, I came very close to having the man killed.

That was when I found out.

It was an extremely humiliating and soul destroying thing for me.

I have since heard that after destroying my life, this same man has gone on to do the same to many others.

I will never fully recover from my horrible experience because every time I read about adultery, the pain returns.

As can be expected, this man eventually became tired of having his way with my wife.

The money he would give her, to get into her pants dried up and he has moved on to ‘fresh meat.’

Only my children and I are left to pick our lives back up (my wife whom somehow I still love) obviously knew what she was doing and must find peace with herself.

Indeed she was also doing injustice to the man’s wife...if she felt she wanted to be with the adulterer she should have told me she wanted to leave and told him to leave his wife (which he would never do of course). The same applies to these young ladies who are going around chasing after married men. IT ALL MUST STOP.

We cannot have this level of immorality and promiscuity in a country where we suffer one of the highest rates of HIV.

I will always love my wife but unfortunately, cannot return to her because what she did made her no different from these women who stand by the roadsides at night and give men access to themselves in exchange for money. As for him, each time I see these stories in the paper, that demon in me that wants him dead returns.

It is a demon I will have to fight with all my life because I do not intend becoming a murderer. Let us stop this thing, Maswati, Unfortunately, like I said before, we are in extremely short supply of high profile role models.

Sifiso Ginindza

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Sifiso
Your story is a painful reminder of what a shameless people we, as a nation, have become. Indeed, promiscuity and general recklessness have become fashionable in this country. It is serious cause for concern. Government and the agencies that work to raise awareness on HIV/AIDS issues have failed. Clearly, it is now up to each individual to change his or her behaviour and try to encourage those around them to do the same. This could be close family members, friends and neighbours. As the slogan says, "It begins with you." Unfrotunately, everybody seems to think it will never happen to them – and so…the vicious cycle of death and disease continues.
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