Times Of Swaziland: REVENGE CAN DETER YOU FROM GROWING MENTALLY

REVENGE CAN DETER YOU FROM GROWING MENTALLY
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Editor on 26/05/2023 06:52:00


Sir,
Allow me to share my sentiments on some of the drawbacks of trying to find peace
in blaming anyone you think is partially or fully involved in that damning
predicament you once encountered or you are currently facing. It is worth noting
that some of us have come across different hassles apparently brought forth by
one of our beloved friends, acquaintances, family members or any ordinary figure
for that matter, and tried to find peace by blaming that particular mortal.
Testimony
As an advocate, living testimony and my many years of existence in this agonous
world, I stand to be realigned if all that I’m sharing with you happens to be
deemed as pseudo or naive. First of all, blaming the next figure not only
presents a major setback on your possibilities of mental growth, but it also
brings forth virulence on you as the blamer. And just to shed some light on the
term ‘virulence’, my Oxford English dictionary clearly explains it as ‘to
be filled with hatred’, and yes, that is how brief the meaning is. Well, as
human beings we tend to feel composed when we hold the next person accountable
or being the causal factor to our predicaments.
Harm
Virulence is associated with vindictiveness, which puts the blamed person at
risk of any perilous harm from the blamer or perhaps any activity that the
blamer may resort to, in order to eradicate or ease the felt indignation. As
human beings, the Lord our Creator didn’t programme us to automatically grow
mentally but it’s an activity that we should try to adopt gradually and, I’m
afraid, blame antagonizes that. God also bitterly detests revengeful
mentalities.
Revenge can deter you from growing mentally in the sense that one spends most of
his or her delicate time thinking that, if it wasn’t for figure X then none of
this would have happened and would at times also ignore the stance of forgiving
that person. Forgiving renders us an opportunity to focus on more important
things in our lives, so if you don’t forgive you are just being unfair and
setting yourself back by a considerable degree of self betterment. God forgives
those who sin and I surmise we all are subject to that. Solutions to finding
solace after someone has wronged you, may be seeking guidance from God through
persistent prayers. Of course there is nothing so finely felt as betrayal, but
I’m afraid it’s a panacea to a healthier noodle and a continuously forgiving
mindset.
Trying to talk with that person such as, telling he or she that what happened
wasn’t at all cool but putting all that behind you may come in handy.
Understand that as human beings we are not perfect and we are all subject to
mistakes; you too can be blamed one day and worse could even happen. I can be
very pleased if we can halt hardening our grip on blame, but instead try to
forget about everything and always strive for the future. Get the ball rolling,
great things are waiting for you.