Times Of Swaziland: BIG SECRETS FOR A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE BIG SECRETS FOR A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE ================================================================================ Editor on 07/07/2022 08:20:00 Sir, Everyone you marry has a weakness, it’s only God who does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse’s weakness you can’t get the best out of his or her strength. Everyone has a dark history as no one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone’s past. What matters most is the present life of your partner; old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future. Every marriage has its own challenges because a marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good relationship has gone through its own tests of blazing fire but true love proves itself in times of challenges, so fight for your marriage. Vows Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need and remember the vows for better or for worse; in sickness and in health. Every marriage has different levels of success; don’t compare yours with anyone else’s. We can never be equal. Some will be far and some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your dreams shall come true. To get married is like declaring war. When you get married, you must declare war against enemies of your union. Some enemies of marriages are ignorance, prayerlessness not forgiving, third party influence, stinginess, stubbornness, lack of love, rudeness, laziness, disrespect and cheating. Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone. Maintenance There is no perfect marriage and there is no already-made marriage. This union is hard work, therefore, volunteer yourself to work on it daily. A marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere, exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. Let us not be careless about our marriages. God cannot give you a complete person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of raw materials in order for you to mold the person that you desire. This can only be achieved through prayer, love and patience. Getting married is taking a huge risk; you cannot predict what will happen in the future. Situations may change, so leave room for adjustments. A husband can lose his good job or you may fail to have babies. All these require you to be prayerful otherwise you might divorce. A marriage is not a contract; it is permanent. It needs total commitment. Love is the glue that sticks the couple together. Divorce starts in the mind and the devil feeds the mind. Never ever entertain thoughts of getting a divorce. Never threaten your spouse with divorce; choose to remain married because God hates divorce. There is a price to pay for every marriage because it is like a bank account. It is the money that you deposit that you withdraw. If you don’t deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate for a blissful home. So let us always pray for our marriages and may God bless you all.