Times Of Swaziland: WHAT REALLY HAPPENS BEHIND CLOSED DOORS?

WHAT REALLY HAPPENS BEHIND CLOSED DOORS?
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Editor on 07/06/2022 14:59:00


Sir,
When you vividly look at today’s world, citizens are becoming more and more
inhumane, uncontrollable and dangerous. Every month we hear news of people being
abused, killed and tortured to death. What makes people do such painful acts? We
hear of couples who have been happily married ending up killing one another. Is
it because they are bad people; that is why they commit atrocious murder? Not
really because others are absolutely caring, loving and responsible when it
comes to their families.
When I hear that a man has killed his wife or girlfriend, before I reach a
conclusion, I try to understand exactly what caused him to think of doing such a
terrible thing. Some time back it came to my attention that a God-fearing man
had killed himself and his loved one, the one he was supposed to protect. I
tried to find out about a lot of things about him, especially his personality
and character, and it dawned on me as it was clearly unpacked that he was
humble, respective, kind and generous. It, therefore, tormented my mind why he
decided to do such a terrible thing to a person he was supposed to love. I was
convinced that if he could be brought back to life, he would regret what he did
with all his being. So this got me thinking and wondered what was really
happening behind closed doors. What was really happening in relationships that
was being kept away from public scrutiny?
Souls
The real undeniable fact is that not all souls who committed murder were capable
of doing that. If  a woman could  recognise that the man she was married to had
the potential to kill, she  would find ways that would make her not to live with
him. No matter what the circumstances, no woman would risk her life by
intentionally marrying a crook, murderer or liar. Women marry men whom they
think will be  good husbands. If I was a pastor I would say there is demonic
influence that takes over once anger erupts in a human being. People nowadays do
not know how to control anger, but instead it takes control of them. It even
leads the most responsible of citizens into commit murder. Nowadays, people are
vehemently angered, they lose themselves, they lose their senses and that is why
they act so violently and weirdly, which is not supposed to be the case.
Crazy
We all know that once we become furious we do many crazy things to an extent
that some even break their treasured materials, not with an intention to do so
but because of what they are feeling at that point in time. Of course, we cannot
avoid anger but we can control it. In fact we have to do all we can to control
it. The moment you feel your blood boiling, don’t listen to the thoughts that
may invade your mind. We need to learn and get used to talking to neutral people
and reveal your thoughts as this will go a long way in avoiding doing bad
things. Talk to an understanding person as that person may help you calm your
anger.