MAID, CHURCH DESTROYED MY MARRIAGE!

I received a call from  Khanyisile Mamba who said she had been touched by the article that was run last Sunday that dealt with maids sleeping with their employers’ husbands.

She said, “The article opened up wounds that I had thought I had laid to rest. The pain of what happened was indescribable. I now know that, that woman’s intention with the aid of other women from my church was to steal my husband from the beginning and she only posed as a maid to get into my house.  I was recently married and had a child and was looking for a live –in helper.

I found Thembi through one of the ladies at my church she was a Christian and hardworking young lady that is how she portrayed herself to me at the very beginning. She was always very helpful and took on duties that I had not asked her to do around the house. I would come home and find everything in order. I would find  the food cooked even the lunches packed for the following day. I told her I preferred cooking for the family myself, but she insisted she would cook as I was tired and  from work.

 At the beginning she fooled me into thinking she was really nice and supportive. However, it was all a guise as I would soon discover. I was told at work that there was an opportunity available for staff to attend a three-week workshop in Durban but I felt that I couldn’t go because of the baby. She overheard me telling my husband  and offered to sleep with the baby in my absence. Foolishly I agreed not knowing that was the beginning of the end of my marriage. One night while I was  in Durban and couldn’t get hold of my husband, the landline phone rang unanswered, his cellphone was off. I thought I was going out of my mind. I eventually got through at midnight.

Thembi answered in a voice that told me clearly that she was in my husband’s room and said, “Why are you calling us in the middle of the night, you are disturbing us and will wake up the baby.  Have manners mani.” I thought she couldn’t recognise my voice and told her who I was and she said, “I know who you are, it’s late,” and proceeded to cut the call.

When I tried calling again it was off. When my husband came to pick me up at the airport hours after my arrival and I asked what had been going on I found a changed man, cold, hard and distant. It was quite clear that she had poisoned my husband against me. When I tried talking to him about this issue he would deny anything happened and only said think for the child, don’t upset her and I would do what he said because I was scared that she would harm my child. 

I went to see the lady who had recommended Thembi to me but she was like that’s what men do sisi, that’s life and there is nothing anyone can do about it. In fact she was very unsupportive and I couldn’t shake the feeling that she was laughing at me. Life became unbearable in that house with the maid becoming something else, lazy, rude, argumentative and negative. I received no support from my husband at all and I just couldn’t take it anymore and left. He tried reconciling with me, saying he was sorry for the way he behaved and that when I was away the maid had been insinuating to him that I might be cheating and that is why he succumbed to her advances but I refused to take him back.

A few months after I had moved out I met an old lady from my church and she told me that what had happened had been caused by jealousy as I had said I was happily married and the fact that my husband doted on me, opening the car door for me and such. In fact she advised me never to tell people how happy I was because some people would be very jealous and try and destroy my marriage as had been the case.

 I was and still am beyond shocked at the calculated way those church women tried to destroy my life. I moved to Australia and met a wonderful man who I have married. Life is good.

But I must say I could not believe that this reign of terror was started because of an innocent remark that I was happily married. That was my sin. I would never have believed that this level of evil was possible from church ladies had it not happened to me. I learned a valuable lesson though; some church ladies are at a new level of evil that I could not have imagined!

By Isabella Gilbert

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