‘YOU’RE GREAT JUST AS YOU ARE!’

Being stuck in a constant whirlwind of believing that you aren’t good enough can happen to anyone.  There are people that would purposely go out of their way to ruin your life, just so they feel better about theirs.

You know what really isn’t attractive?
Having to feel like you need to tear down others to feel like you have a purpose, being that girl or that guy who is so insecure about how they rank as an individual that they have to make others feel like they are meaningless.
Like most people today, I’ve had a special experience with these kinds of people in my life.
They’re toxic, manipulative and can be hard to cut out of your life. But it can be done.

It has to be a conscious effort, because if you let them back into one inch of your life, then the whole time you’ve spent rebuilding yourself and picking up all the pieces would have been for nothing.

We are more than a number on a scale.
When I was in high school, I believed that I wasn’t as pretty as the other girls. Because I wasn’t asked out by any guys, and I wasn’t the topic of their conversations, I deemed myself ugly.

No one told me I was; I reached the conclusion on my own. I spent hours and nights pleading with God to make me pretty. And what I couldn’t understand is that I was already beautiful in his image. This obsession with our looks is becoming too common in our culture today. Girls spend hundreds of Emalangeni on their hair, in beauty salons and in pretty stores trying to get that perfect look. We compare ourselves to our best friends, and worry that the guys we like secretly think we are unattractive.
We are more than the image in the mirror.

I got out of what some would call a toxic relationship. The guy I was with didn’t hurt me, he didn’t verbally berate me about my looks, but it was unfulfilling. Not because he didn’t care at all (though my parents believe differently), but because we weren’t on the same emotional level. Someone who loves you would never hurt you in the most basic way. But that’s not how the world works. There are women and men who are afraid to leave a physically or emotional abusive relationship because that life is their identity. They allow themselves to be torn down because the abuser says they love them. But that’s not love.

We are defined by more than a relationship.

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